Dating Abuse in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer Relationships

If you are in a same sex relationship and/or are an individual who identifies as transgender, the information offered on these pages is for you.  LGBTQ+ youth experience abusive relationships at the same rates and in many of the same ways that heterosexual couples do.

Signs of Abuse/Tactics specific to LGBTQ Relationships

  • Threatening to “out” their partner

  • Making homophobic comments

  • Shaming their partner about their sexual orientation and/or gender identity

  • Telling their partner that no one will believe a LGBTQ victim

Barriers to Breaking Up for LGBTQ Youth

LGBTQ youth may experience other obstacles to breaking up and seeking safety.

  • If you are not “out” to everyone, your abusive partner might threaten to tell others when you leave the relationship. This can lead to being ridiculed, harassed, threatened, or physically hurt.

  • You may not be able to confide in your parents if you are not “out” to them, or they do not accept your sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. They could respond in dramatic and unpredictable ways.

  • You may fear not taken being taken seriously when you disclose the abuse and seek support from others. There is a myth that LGBTQ relationship abuse is mutual. It is not.

  • You may not know others who are LGBTQ or you may have a small community of LGBTQ friends. Disclosing abuse and/or ending the relationship could result in social isolation.

Our advocates are ready to help you work through any obstacles you face. You deserve to be safe.

Call our Confidential Hotline: 1.800.537.6066   365/24/7

What Can the Confidential Hotline Do for You?

  • Listen to you without judgment. 
  • Offer support for your feelings and information about your choices.
  • Explore your situation and answer any questions you may have.
  • Help you plan for safety in school and at home.
  • Talk with you about how to be helpful to someone you care about.
  • Keep your information confidential.