Dating Abuse in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer Relationships
If you are in a same sex relationship and/or are an individual who identifies as transgender, the information offered on these pages is for you. LGBTQ+ youth experience abusive relationships at the same rates and in many of the same ways that heterosexual couples do.
Signs of Abuse/Tactics specific to LGBTQ Relationships
Threatening to “out” their partner
Making homophobic comments
Shaming their partner about their sexual orientation and/or gender identity
Telling their partner that no one will believe a LGBTQ victim
Barriers to Breaking Up for LGBTQ Youth
LGBTQ youth may experience other obstacles to breaking up and seeking safety.
If you are not “out” to everyone, your abusive partner might threaten to tell others when you leave the relationship. This can lead to being ridiculed, harassed, threatened, or physically hurt.
You may not be able to confide in your parents if you are not “out” to them, or they do not accept your sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. They could respond in dramatic and unpredictable ways.
You may fear not taken being taken seriously when you disclose the abuse and seek support from others. There is a myth that LGBTQ relationship abuse is mutual. It is not.
You may not know others who are LGBTQ or you may have a small community of LGBTQ friends. Disclosing abuse and/or ending the relationship could result in social isolation.
Our advocates are ready to help you work through any obstacles you face. You deserve to be safe.
Call our Confidential Hotline: 1.800.537.6066 365/24/7
What Can the Confidential Hotline Do for You?
- Listen to you without judgment.
- Offer support for your feelings and information about your choices.
- Explore your situation and answer any questions you may have.
- Help you plan for safety in school and at home.
- Talk with you about how to be helpful to someone you care about.
- Keep your information confidential.